A little more Jane
October 31, 2008
There’s this scene in Becoming Jane, when the neighborhood rich lady strongly suggests that Jane marry her uptight nephew. She tells Jane that she doesn’t have children and it has caused her a lonely existence and she didn’t want Jane to suffer the same pain. The directors point out of course that’s just what happened to Jane. She never married. That she did suffer the pain of not having children… but also the freedom; the freedom to write her books and not be burdened by children.
So I was thinking about that… the relationship between pain and freedom. I think that you can’t have freedom without pain of regret. Because when you can choose to go down one road and not another there’s always the thought about what could have been. And you don’t have anyone to blame but yourself. You don’t generally regret the things that you are forced to do because you didn’t have the choice, you weren’t free. And maybe that’s why we are sometimes reluctant to make choices. We’re afraid to miss something good.